When Our Baby Not Perfect

Every parent would expect to have a baby "not perfect." However, reality does not always meet all expectations. When the child was diagnosed with deformity, like defects, Down syndrome or autism, certainly no feeling sad and upset.

Feelings of anger, could not accept, even shame to admit it happened in the family is the natural reaction. According to Gobin Vashdew, parenting motivator, these reactions arise because we are not prepared to accept the reality.

"The feeling down there because they were not ready. This could cause stress and these conditions are not easily escape from stress," says the author of Happiness Inside this.

Furthermore, parents often feel depressed, hopeless, and losing hope, especially when parents wonder about the future of the child. Sometimes, this stress can also lead to guilt, especially in the mother's side.

At this stage of depression, parents tend to be moody, withdrawn from the closest social environment, and loss of life. "Most people that have certain emotions will be leveled or buried themselves. In fact, the truth is released," said Gobin.

Process to escape from stress or stress relief is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. "We can do this by trying to take lessons from each incident. Every person is born with their respective roles. Perhaps with this incident I was given a role as a nurse for my child," he said.

Every event in this world is neutral. Would you like to be negative or positive, depends on how we see and give meaning. "It would be nice if we always see from the other side," he said.

An event can be a door to an extraordinary thing. For example, Oprah Winfrey who can rise up from the trauma of sexual abuse they experienced. Another example is Gayatri Pamoedji, mother of a disabled teenager with autism who is known today as a family counselor and speaker at various seminars on children with autism.

The sooner we stop lamenting the fate and be able to find meaning, the sooner a child gets the attention and love needed to maximize the growth of.

"Sadness can not stay long. Remember, our children need immediate action. The more premature the child gets therapy and education, the better growth of the future will become independent so that no less like a normal child," said Gayatri in an opportunity.